Building a more solid personal Foundation

[LITB]

LITB, I hear you loud and clear. It's a tough balance between letting your W miss you and showing your positive changes. I think the best thing you can do is to continue to work toward being your best possible self. When you have contact with your W, keep being positive and upbeat.

I don't think it's your job to teach your W consequences. That being said, you can allow your W to feel the consequences by not buffering her from them. After all, you have your own life to live.

I agree with everything you said JB. KD is right about you having the market cornered on GAL.

I've been asking myself lately if my W is someone I would be interested in dating. The answer to that is IDK. She definitely has the inside track if she indicates she wants to come back.

Here is some irony for you speaking of dating.

There is a beautiful woman that I am very attracted to who works at the bank that I use. She helped me the first couple of times I went in there, however it was early in my sitch.

On Friday I walked in and she offered to help me. So we started with some small talk and then I went for it, because this was my opportunity:

M: I've seen you in here a few times and I think you are very attractive. I'm wondering if you have a boyfriend.

(Bank Teller): Well thank you. I do have a boyfriend.

M: He is a lucky guy.

More small talk about the 9ers game and football. That's the first time I've done that. I've been out of the game for awhile.

Thought I would share, since the following day OM was confirmed.

I really have no business getting involved with anyone with where I am at. Just saw an opportunity and went for it.