Very well put, Purg. Too often I find myself interpreting my W's actions or words in an optimistic or overly hopeful way. In my case, my confusion is largely rooted in her saying that she is continuing to think about things and weigh things, while at the same time saying that she does not want to stop the D process. Why not simply say, I'm Ding you and there's nothing you can do about it and leave it at that? Why even leave room for interpretation. I am guessing that the reason (thank you, once again, to Sandi) is that the LBS we have become is inconsistent with the person the WAS thought he/she was Ding and that creating difficulties for the WAS. Giving them something to think about is yet another reason to keep up the changes no matter how trying it is.
