Thank you for your words and encouragement, BM. Keeping up the changes in the face of continuing ambivalence is so tough. I think you are absolutely correct about my situation: my W told me that she had been thinking about D for several years. Now that she has filed I truly believe (and I thank Sandi for this insight) that my W believes that if she withdraws or delays the D process that she will not have the strength to refile/resume in the future. I wish I knew how to get her beyond the fear of an expectation of failure, which is based on who I was, by getting her to focus on the successful changes. For me, going after the promotion was a LRT because of the change it will bring and because the man I was wouldn't have gone for the promotion. The man I am not only went for it but got it. I only wish she would see that.
