"The following is as much to myself as it is to you. We need to be patient. What we are doing is working they have seen the changes. They are afraid. They are terrified. It took them so much effort to get the strength to leave they dont want to do this again"

Ditto^^^^^. Bklyn, you know my sitch is similar to yours, James, you have the female version of our Hs.

It's like, as much effort as we are putting into *our* changes and choosing to DB for ourselves..... The WAS is putting that same amount of effort into *their* choice to walk away.

I can't speak for them, but I imagine they look/analyze/scrutinize every word and interaction that we have with them- trying to find things to justify their decision.... on the other hand, the LBS looks/analyze/scrutinizes every interaction looking for a 'softening' from them.

It's a bad game of emotional tug-o-war.

M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12