Just got a text from the wife (haven't replied yet) asking "Can we just try to agree on something??? What if we agreed to 750 [a month] till the end of the year??? No lawyers and we split things in the house??? Please I just want all this negativity to go away."
Considering she HAD been asking $1000 a month for a full year, this actually is $3750 less. It's actually FEASIBLE (I think - I'll need to do some quick math to be sure).
It's certainly a change from the venom I got on Saturday, that's for sure.
Now, personally, /I/ still don't want a divorce at all - nothing's changed there. But, along the lines of what bustorama had been suggesting earlier in my thread, I'm THINKING of going along with this one. If she never stops and reconsiders, it's at least something I can afford (even if it's more than she'd probably get from a lawyer-negotiated settlement - though it's not like I'm out to impoverish her). On the other hand, letting her move forward with it might be the best thing for us. Give her the feeling of more space, the feeling of moving twoard something she thinks she needs - and others have said the reality of filing, or the approach of 'finalizing' was what it took for things to turn around.
So, I'm thinking agreeing to this might be the way to go???
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12
