even if confronting in THIS situation were a good idea (and I do see the point you are making about the double life)
but the suggestion I was specifically responding to was involving OTHER 3RD parties.
Honestly I cannot ever imagine that being a good idea. It just looks punitive or vindictive and worse, it plays so well into the "crazy wife" images many have and the h is probably using to justify his choice to leave. So it hurst the w's cause.
Case in point--A woman in my high school class posted on our class's FB page (for which I am the administrator)
that her h had left her for OW--another classmate from long ago.
I deleted the w's post after 2 requests from neutral parties, who thought it was inappropriate and weird. (I had not checked the page in weeks, so I just didn't know about it). But that's how two people not involved in the sitch, saw THE WIFE, not the OW...
and I find that's more likely than garnering sympathy for going public...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
