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What would be your thinking on distancing from her? What is your "reason"?

Also, while they will notice our changes even if we aren't in constant contact or even if our contact is limited, there's also the reality that if she doesn't know what she's missing, how can she want it?

Thanks for your input KD. The reason I'm thinking of distancing myself is twofold.

1) I'm not going to BS anyone here, it is to remove myself as much as possible to allow my W to see how life is without me in it. This might be viewed as me teaching her consequences. IDK.

2) To begin living the reality of what divorce life will be like to both her and I. I had been getting mixed signals from her and that gave me hope.

It doesn't mean that I have given up. It just means that there is a difference between reality and hope. I hope that someday we might be able to work things out, but I realize that the chances are not very good.