I'm so grateful for all the support I have received so far! It helps to know that I'm not truly "alone" and that my sitch is not that much out of the ordinary. Your help has been tremendous so far!
The day after Thanksgiving H drops bomb, says he's "done". Continuous blaming me for everything that has gone wrong in our R begins, apparently so much that it "pushed him away". I accept that I wasn't the best wife and still try to fully understand where H is coming from. H was angry and hostile with me, spent 3 nights in a hotel before XMas, and still says that "we're not good for each other, we don't know each other anymore, etc." H used to tell me he never wanted a D, that I was the only one, etc, so the bomb was a shocker. I had suspicion about EA. My gut was right. OW is a 21yr old co-worker. I don't know the full extent of A, but I know they kissed and probably started to fantasize about a future together. H still lives at home, though is thinking about moving out and is working on a budget.
