hi everyone! newbie here....could this be a MLC?

[BeingMe]

Hi MNC ... sorry that you have to deal with a sitch like this.

MLC is a difficult thing to "diagnose", but some of the things your H is saying does does seem MLC-ish, such as rewriting your history, not wanting to be touched, feeling burdened. Whether it is MLC or not, I would suspect there is OW involved. My H always denied it, until I found the emails ... their R was long distant. Is your H secretive and protective over his cell phone, or emails? That was a sign to me, and I found that out on this board. Does he blame you for everything? That's also MLC-ish, since it's impossible for one person to be at fault 100% of the time.

There is something happening here. Just step back and give him some space, and watch what happens. No R talk, no begging, no crying, no arguing. I started not getting upset when my H unthinkingly hurt my feelings ... would just turn around and walk away. Quite freeing, not defending oneself because, ultimately, it's pointless. Try getting a life (GAL) by going out without him, start/renew a hobby, join a club, have ladies night out (make sure you are dressed to kill), keep a positive mood, smile a lot. Keeping a journal might be a good idea too, so you can track changes, improvements or the reverse. You can even use this board to do that. I do because I don't want my H to find written journals at home.

Anyway, this is all I can think of, for now. First thing, step away, keep your distance emotionally speaking. I know it's hard, but this is a way to get through this. A start, anyway.

Take care.