WHG: Chasing that rabbit with the pocketwatch

[workinghardguy]

Spent a lot of time with my S this weekend. We went bowling, visited grandma, and hung out. Now that my W has found a house and set a moving date things are becoming more concrete for him. He asked me twice today to read him his "divorce books". He wants to put W and I back together. He made a wish the other night on a falling star that "the whole family could be happy together." Tonight he told me, "Daddy, I'm sorry you're getting a divorce." What can you say to that?

I hate seeing my son's world turned over on him. But so far he seems to be handling it well. Tonight as we read KoKo Bear he reminded me that the divorce is not his fault, or SD's fault, or SS's fault. Though I can tell that SD and S have been talking... tonight my S asked me if I knew that my W has been married TWO TIMES (imagine it said in the best voice of incredulousness that a five year old can muster). It was said in the same voice that SD used when she challenged my W on how many more marriages she was going to walk away from in her future.

Besides that it's been up and down. The date W is moving is pretty much set. There will be a lot of packing between now and then. This coming weekend is the second to last weekend they'll spend with me, at least on a regular basis. Lots of those "lasts" coming at me fast right now. Fighting hard to remain positive. To just see this as a change. To believe the words I read to my S in his books... "we are still a family, just a different type of family".