Together since we were 15...Part 2

[purgatory]

Sounds like you've crossed into the next phase: where the WAS sees your changes and the reality of their choice (less $, not ML, no cake eating)... and it manifests as anger towards you. My H started this phase about a month after the bomb- and he's had one foot there ever since.

I was told (on one of my earliest posts) that the WAS is angry for a few reasons:
*They see *you* as the reason that their lives have been changed for the negative (even though it was their choice to walk away.) They need to have some justification for their choice, so they point the angry finger at you.
*They are angry (and hurt) that they *had* to walk away in order for you to make changes... changes that they might have been asking for for years. They battle the thoughts that *they* weren't good enough for you to make changes, but now that they are gone, you will make changes for *someone* new.

Doesn't make it ANY easier to deal with. I know how uncomfortable it makes you feel when they behave like they've never done before (that's the alien behavior coming out.) At least understanding it, helps to accept it.

You have been on such a positive path lately, don't let his strange behavior change any of that!