CAUGHT HIM IN HIS LIE!

[25yearsmlc]

I'm glad confronting and exposing to other 3rd parties worked out for you.

But it is NOT what DB recommends, and in fact they oppose involving others.

You are the only person who says it worked for them.

I only advise snooping if you are SURE it's a gamechanger...

I never advise telling 3rd parties, ever. I am not sure if that helped you as much as other efforts on your end...

Or,

are you saying YOU changed nothing in yourself the whole time??

I'm going to guess you GAL and did some introspection and 180s, b/c I've never seen punishing a spouse into returning, last. (And you can't have read DB and DR and not gotten anything out of them).

But it'd be good and perhaps more helpful if you told us about your inward journey if there was one, rather than suggesting what is not advised here. You may not be suggesting it but merely mentioning that and only that action

implies that's what worked. I don't think I buy it...I mean, did you honestly change nothing else in your dynamic?

Not to nitpick or bust your chops, it's just that I've seen this "tell others" about it, backfire EVERY other time here. Big time. Always seems to look punitive and vindictive...usually is.

And I've been here awhile...

but I'm sincere when I say I'm glad you reconciled or are in piecing.