Never thought I's be here.........Part 6

[Shaky]

Now that I know for certain that my wife isn't going to leave me my advice is try not to do too much talking. She will probably test you like my wife because she won't believe the things you wrote in the letter. I know she wants to believe but she will have her walls up that is why she wants the counselor there.

I did a lot of defending myself at the marriage counseling sessions and that is the last thing your wife wants to hear.

She wants to know your changes are real.

Every session I have gone through I always feel beat up and end up being the one that wants out of the marriage. After I have time to think about the things she brings up and really listen and try to see it from her perspective I calm down and try to figure out what she was missing from me and work on that.

After a few sessions I figured out the less I said the better. Not sure if its the right way but my wife is very stubborn and I know it will take time before she is 100% committed again. Just don't know how much time, lol.

Also don't answer anything until you have really thought it through. I'm really good at just acting like a know it all and makes my wife feel stupid.

Good luck, hopefully she gives you another chance and you can then show her the great guy you have become.