Moving forward together and piecing

[2thepoint]

"I'm right there at the forked road, and I'm stuck standing there.

I want my marriage, and I want to forgive him.... but I'm just not there yet."

CT - It is clear you are struggling and still trying to heal. I am sorry that you are having such a tough time letting go of the anger and resentment. It is important though for you to know that by hanging on to your anger and resentment, you are really only hurting yourself.

The other day Newt Gingrich's ex-wife did a television interview where she was clearly out to extract revenge on her former H. They have been divorced for 10 years and yet here she is, 10 years on and still clinging to her bitterness. It was not attractive and you could just see by her appearance that she was an angry woman.

Do you want to be like Gingrich's ex-wife?

Your H seems to truly be trying to make amends and there really is only so much he can do. IMO, it is going to be up to you to let go of the hurt otherwise your M may never recover.

Below are a few of my favorite quotes on forgiveness (there is another in my signature block).

Resentment is like a glass of poison that a man drinks; then he sits down and waits for his enemy to die.
--Nelson Mandela

We are all full of weakness and errors; let us mutually pardon each other our follies
--Voltaire

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heal that has crushed it.
--Mark Twain

I wish you well as you continue your journey and search for the path to forgiveness.