I agree with Kolja, your IC should be there to make the env't safe for both of you. Let him/her do the work. You are there to listen and validate. 25 wrote some mantras on another thread that I can;t find right now: Something like, I don;t remember it that way but I'm sorry you were hurt and If I had it to do over, I would do it very differently.
Of course you won't want to wear these out and sound like a robot.
Have you thought how the meaning of your thread name has changed?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
