Seems to me you're on the right track with staying out of defensive mode - let her get it out, if in anger or hurt she says hurtful things be mindful of the emotional place she's in and don't take it personally, try to listen to what she's ACTUALLY trying to say beneath all that and let the counselor help draw that out
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12
