Arghh. Total backslide and totally let myself get sucked in. She says i'm not doing anything because we haven't sat down to talk about how we're going to split up our stuff. I tried telling her that i'm just not there yet and if that is a big issue for her that she can either just plan on having it, or make a list. I told her i'm just not focused on that, that i'm in a different place in this process than she is, and that i'm still focused on trying to figure out how we're going to tell and/or deal with the kids. She takes shots at me and I let it get me angry. Things escalate, and we ended up yelling at each other in the bathroom and her feeling like i'm not giving her space, yelling at me to leave her alone. I should have left minutes earlier. Coulda, woulda, shoulda. I guess it wouldn't be so hard if we just turn back the clock. If i'm moving along trying to DB, and focus on myself and be happy, the more frustrated she gets because she feels like nothing is happening. Each day she seems to snub me or be short with me, worse and worse and then we have one of these conversations. So I'm not understanding how to talk without talking about what she wants to talk about and when we do how do I avoid getting sucked in. It's so difficult.
