H just left and if i look at what happened you can say it was successful (and uneventful but thats ok). i feel happy that i stuck to my db plan....We had this conversation in a different room that we usually do (i read in db about changing up the where) and it was a more relaxed. i let him take control of all the talking and was pretty quiet but relatively happy throughout. usually i'm the one in control of all that, and the chatty one.
There was no R talk at all...i think he was plugging me for it a bit...he kept saying is there anything you want to talk about...i kept saying no and he kept asking me if i was ok and i said yeah i'm fine. I think it threw him for a bit of a loop. He was the one who brought up the email i sent him earlier this week and just said he appreciated it and that i was right that its going to be good for him to get out on his own (away from his buddy's basement) and he said to really think about things. i wanted to get into it a bit more but resisted and just said cool.
Accuray, as for giving him something to think about...i did that too and he was visibly suprised by what i said.. we talked casually about the house and he asked had i put any thought into what i want to do...ie sell, stay here or what....i said well i'm looking at my options of buying you out...or selling it or maybe moving away...and he cut me off right away and said what what are you talking about moving away, i said well i'm looking at all my options right now (when things were great with us we often talked about moving, and he knows that i want to at some point). he's like.. oh why would you move, i just shrugged and didn't really get into anything, just said i have to look at all my options. he was shocked.
I feel good about my little accomplishment tonight and somewhat successful db...or so i think. i did cry when he left but i felt good that it was infact when he was gone and not while he was here.
