And I didn't make it clear, but when I was at my desk and he was telling me about his plans, I did stop what I was doing and look him in the eye. I validated his plans by saying: "sounds like you're going to have fun with the guys!" (they are building a cabinet and going to a gun show- TOTAL guy stuff)
When he left for the door, I watched him, but he never looked back.
I've been talking to a L for 2 weeks- so far she's just helping me understand what I'm entitled to and reviewing the papers that H and I have been drafting. He has yet to settle on a L (he's had consults with 3 so far). I've already paid a retainer for mine- so I'm a little farther along than him. He has said that he's excited that I'm taking this seriously (drives the knife in a little more)
In regards to health insurance- we have been discussing the possibility of staying 'separated' indefinitely- for insurance, taxes, married BAS and BAH. He said: "I can't see anything wring with that." He was commissioned 1 year after we got married (2 days before our 1st anniv.)
Thanks for validating my sitch- so I can avoid analyzing and picking apart the conversations
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12