Kind of short on time right now, so I may finish posting later. I agree with the coach/counselor. Your W is too quick to tell you about Dallas and that she'll be leaving, yada....yada. It's like she's throwing the alarm flags all around and trying to get you to do something.
What would be that something?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!