Just heard from my STBX for the first time in 2 weeks. She was checking in, as the D signing is Friday. She has been back in her town for 2 weeks, and is absolutely motionless. Does nothing. Cannot motivate to look for a job. Never leaves the house. Clearly in her depression.

Am finding it very hard to just cut her off. But I am told that is what I need to do. Val is probably correct. Cannot stand to see the woman I care for in such a state. But she has no plans on coming back here. And she has her OM, although he lives 800 miles away and she has no plans to move there. When will it sink in to me that I mean nothing to her, and that I should just forget her and move on? Does that ever happen?

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012