I don't think you really can process it away, I think it's a function of time and action. Keeping your brain occupied with other things should help.
Keep it up!
the anger and hurt DO fade and seem less and less relevant with time. Especially when the WAS makes changes, you begin to say "from this day forward" & letting go of the past...and don't forget,
you are asking that of HIM too....
but yes, in time...
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