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Re: Too Little, Too late 3 nhmom #2214607 01/21/12 06:07 PM
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OP purgatory Member P Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 825 Virginia	I just thought about something.... Now that my BFF has made herself the OW, I look at her differently. The things that I might have once defended or excused in her because she was my friend and i loved her.... are now the things that I focus on about her. Her negative traits are magnified and I find myself criticizing her previous and present actions. I can't even get myself to hate her- as much as I would be justified in feeling that way! I am disgusted by her actions and have a new impression of her, but not hate. Even today, her youngest is in the hospital with unexplained violent symptoms- it's my instinct to go be with her or at least to call and keep her calm... but I can't bring myself to give her the satisfaction. I AM concerned about D6- I've known her since birth! She was like the little girl I never had... I can't seem to separate the hurt/anger I feel for her form the care/concern I feel for D6. Should I be the bigger person and reach out to her only out of concern for D6? (Maybe it will remind her of the great friend I really am and make her feel a little guilty about what she's doing, can't say that I wouldn't mind if that happened) Isn't this what happens with our WAS? They start to see and become more focused on the bad things about us (things they would have normally just accepted and dealt with out of love)... but then they reach their breaking point and all of a sudden- we are viewed through a different lens (whatever the opposite of love is)- even though our actions might not have changed too much. I think I have an understanding of what my H has been seeing/feeling with me. It also gives me a new understanding of why he can't show me care/concern when I'm at the hospital- he says it's so I don't get the wrong idea, but I think it's also to protect himself from 'loving' me again. M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12

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Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 04:45 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 05:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 11:48 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Rick1963	01/16/12 12:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/16/12 01:38 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/16/12 02:11 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/16/12 02:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/16/12 02:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 04:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 02:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/16/12 02:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	ces67	01/16/12 03:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	ces67	01/16/12 03:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 04:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 09:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 09:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 10:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/17/12 02:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 03:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 09:17 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 06:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 05:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/17/12 05:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 06:46 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 06:49 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/17/12 06:59 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 06:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 07:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/17/12 07:43 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 08:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 08:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 08:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	WenikiTiki	01/17/12 09:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 09:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/18/12 03:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	sayitaintso	01/18/12 04:00 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	WenikiTiki	01/18/12 08:07 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/18/12 03:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/18/12 04:41 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/18/12 05:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	WenikiTiki	01/18/12 06:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/18/12 11:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/18/12 11:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/18/12 11:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/19/12 12:03 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/19/12 12:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/19/12 12:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/19/12 12:46 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/19/12 02:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	sayitaintso	01/19/12 02:53 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/19/12 04:05 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/19/12 04:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/19/12 05:38 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/19/12 02:11 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	sayitaintso	01/19/12 02:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/19/12 05:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/19/12 09:41 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/20/12 04:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/20/12 04:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/20/12 01:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/20/12 05:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BFloat	01/20/12 06:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/20/12 06:46 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BFloat	01/20/12 07:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/20/12 07:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/20/12 08:29 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/20/12 09:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/20/12 10:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/20/12 10:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	NLW	01/21/12 12:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Rick1963	01/21/12 12:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 01:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/21/12 01:35 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	WenikiTiki	01/21/12 07:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BFloat	01/21/12 09:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 02:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/21/12 02:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/21/12 03:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Rick1963	01/21/12 03:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 04:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/21/12 04:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	nhmom	01/21/12 05:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/21/12 05:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BFloat	01/21/12 06:04 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 06:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	kolja	01/21/12 10:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 11:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 07:11 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 07:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 09:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 09:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 10:34 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 10:35 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 11:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/21/12 11:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/22/12 09:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/21/12 10:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 07:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	~ kd ~	01/21/12 08:18 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/19/12 12:57 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/18/12 11:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	sayitaintso	01/18/12 04:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	RoRoinMD	01/20/12 10:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 08:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/16/12 02:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/16/12 02:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Rick1963	01/16/12 03:43 PM

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