This morning was supposed to be our first 'family' breakfast time. H called early to tell me that he had to cancel because OW youngest was going to the doctor and at the same tim, D16 had an interview for a special art school..... He was canceling so he could take D16 to the interview. I offered for me to take her so he could still see the boys (and I ahven't seen D16 in over 3 weeks).... but I guess that offer was never expressed/ or denied by OW because she called another friend to take D16. [I KNEW that there were other options for her, but OW first and only options was to call H to solve the problem even though she knew that he alrteady had plans with his kids!]
I lost it. I didn't yell, but I said: "no way, no how. I won't let you put someone else's kids above yours"
It went downhill from there and he said he completly disagreed with me and he didn't understand why our breakfast couldn't just be moved to Sunday.
I have never experienced so much hurt/anger at one time!
H 'gave in' (his words) and came over, but he is miserable. He said I'm acting out of jealousy and I said: "no. I don't want you anymore. You are no the man I fell in love with 10 years ago, I don't know who you are. I don't want you so how can I be jealous?" (def not my best moment. I totally let all DB knowledge out the window)
I came back later and said I handled the sitch wrong and I wish it hadn't come to this- because now everyone is miserable.
HOW DO I FIX THIS??!!!! I COMEPLETLY BLEW A CHANCE TO ACT CALM!!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12