at the end of the day, you are the only one who knows how much you can do and how much energy you can invest. none of us can know that. any thoughts i offer are offered with that in mind. and as someone who has been in your shoes - twice - i'm only too happy to offer my unconditional support regardless of how your situation evolves.
and the one thing i can say is that all my pain was not for naught. it made me look into myself, too, and i am very thankful for that. anyone who can do this in your situation not only has my support, they truly have my respect as well.
