Well, it's kind of cryptic and non-specific saying. I do better with specific, actionable things to do or not do. But if setting up a new, non-joint account fits the bill, that part's been done. I don't want to push her further into irrational spitefulness, but it's to the point where I have to protect my clearance - which can be pulled for financial irresponsibility.

And if not agreeing (or frankly being able to afford) her demands for spousal maintenance also fits the bill, there's that too.

Me: 36
Her: 35
Together 7/09
Married 8/7/10
Separate rooms since at least April 11
"I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11
She moves out of state/files 2/7/12
Dissolution final 5/12