I DID have to initiate contact with the wife this afternoon about money - just to let her know the state of things because changing my direct deposit and bills over to a NON-joint account hasn't completely taken effect yet, and whatever her motivation she's practically cleaned me out.

The exchange actually went pretty well (unless she comes back with something angrier tonight) - possibly because I didn't actually use the phrase "you cleaned me out."

Me: 36
Her: 35
Together 7/09
Married 8/7/10
Separate rooms since at least April 11
"I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11
She moves out of state/files 2/7/12
Dissolution final 5/12