IB, you know I have been telling you for a long time that you are so hard on yourself.
The way to get further along in the healing process is to accept what you feel.
Once you acknowledge that it is ok to feel overwhelmed and sad and angry, those feelings begin to lose power.
And then, when you are ready, and no one can tell you when that should be, you learn to let those feelings wash over you.
And soon, it becomes less intense and less often.
When you put pressure on yourself to feel a certain way according to some timeline you have in your head, you continue to hold onto those feelings.
So, keep moving forward. One day at a time. Keep looking within to figure out who you are and who you want to be.
Keep trying new things, learning new things, and remember that you do not have to do everything. You do not have to be superwoman.
It is ok to have bad days. It is ok to feel overwhelmed.
It is what you do with the feelings that make all the difference.
You are not defined by what your marriage was or wasnt for that matter.
While I know that this is not the life you envisioned, it can be a good life, a different one. This time you are in charge of how it unfolds. There is something really cool about that.
