Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

[MynameisMZ]

Hey NB....Just catching up here. Sounds like you are in a good place...well, as good as you can be given the circumstances.

My 2 cents- I laughed at kml's suggestion with the Victoria Secret underwear etc....I guess I just wonder about the "staging" to make an impression. No guarantees, NOT that it might have some effect. So go get that sexy underwear anyway...right now, TONIGHT! Not for him, but for yourself.

I replay 2 scenes in my head where I confronted H and OW. If I had it to do over again, I imagine saying to him in front of her,
"It's either me or her, you choose now." I imagine that because I still think to this day that she thinks he stayed for the kids and he
"will always love her." Eye-roll! It just sticks in my craw.

IMHO I think staying in the basement is making it too easy for him. It's time for a big dose of reality. Getting divorced is expensive! He needs to know that. He'd be like that adult kid still living at home with the parents (failure to launch) and imagine that kid with an addiction. Time for your H to GROW UP!

I was cleaning out my e-mails today and came across the chat my H had with OW and how they were scheming to "run away" together. My H could never be away from his boys. I know that now, but it didn't factor in then. I really thought he was going to leave us all. Now 18-24 months out, I realize that if he had left his kids, he was not someone I would miss for long.

Stop thinking about his expenses and in effect "supporting" that A.

I'll be back now and again to see you. Don't just disappear, OK?

Now I need to find Abbs......