waiting for the tides to change

[purgatory]

Is your H looking at my OW too??? Sounds like we married the same kind of guy and they have found similar OWs... except mine was my BFF for over 6 years, so I *really know* what my competition is contributing to him... makes me sick.

Please go back and read the posts the 25 has put on my page about 'dealing with' the OW I think they start on page 2 or 3). There's too much for me to repost here, but her insights have helped to put things in perspective... not that I'm actually *succeeding* and doing her suggestions, it's given me a goal to work towards.

Long story short: we can't compete, but we don't have to. It's not our job to point out the negatives of the OW and try to 'teach' our H about what's going to happen if they go down that path, they will learn the hard way. And when things start to crash (a while from now) as long as we have left the path home smooth for them, they will see the value of reconciling with us (the mother of their children) instead of learning someone new.

I really want to believe this ^^^^ is the process they will go through, but you and I are in the same boat right now: not sure how this could ever change for the better.

Are you on the east coast? How close can we get to GAL together? I wonder.....