feeling like giving up.....former DBing against OW

[mishka422]

If I agree to lower the amount, am I not enableing him again?

Bingo! You just answered your own question.

The state has a formula for a reason sweetie. It's to protect families. If you were making more then the formula would change the amount of support you were entitled to. This is not a complicated issue. It's a very simple, black and white thing. You are not being spiteful. You did not set the formula. It is what it is. If you chose to take less then you lose all protection that the formula gives you and your kids for standard of living.

Stand strong woman! Like you said, he wanted this so this is the consequence. He will pay what the state says he'll pay and that will mean that he has to adjust his standard of living the same way you have. Too bad for him.