Has Broken had enough?

[broken5150]

It seems as though a 180 for you would have been to show some sympathy. Why not? It doesn't cost a thing.

You're right. It doesnt cost a thing and Ive been showing allot of sympathy within the last year but shes taking my kindness as a sign of weakness.

Same thing with hanging up when she answered. What purpose does it serve? She had to know it was you calling. Do you think this gets you closer or further away from your goal?

Just about EVERY bit of communication with her ends in conflict. I texted her and told her that if theres anyting she might need, to please contact me. I also told the kids to please watch over mommy and make sure shes ok. And, if anything happens, to please contact me.


See, this is what confuses me... Ive read in allot of forums and in books that you have to show them that you are ready and willing to move on. Isnt showing sympathy kind of counter productive? Isnt it telling them that now matter how crappy they treat you, you are still there waiting for them?

LITB, Im all for sympathy but Ive gotten to the point that when I see that shes texting me, I get nervous and I say "Oh God, what now?"

Im really trying to take Mach and 25's advice when it comes to not feeding into her madness and work on myself.

If I take two steps forward and I just look at her texts, I feel like Ive taken 5 steps back...