NH Mom - I know how hard this is for you and it is truly a solitary path you walk as the LBS, however from your posts I don't think your H has "left you" in his heart.
If you are not above swallowing this pain, then maybe the two of you can learn a lot from this and be a better couple than ever before.
Take it from me who has lived what you have, do not succumb to anger and revenge as much as it might feel good in the short term. Take the long view and higher path, communicate honestly and calmly with your H, listen-listen-listen, and you will not regret it.
I really think your H is confused but still in love with you.
