Living in the trenches....Thread #5

[Navyguy]

Things have been going really well here, but had a hiccup last night.

I got home from work around 7 (gotta love this Admiral's aide thing) and W had dinner ready...we had a nice dinner and then I took the kids to the basement to play Wii. W opened a bottle of wine right after dinner. All good.

When I came upstairs with the kids, W was outside on her phone, talking to a friend, so I put the kids to bed. Still all good.

Then after the kids were in bed, I was in the kitchen and W came in, still on the phone. I saw a beer on the counter and asked if it was hers, since I had been drinking the same beer and couldn't remember if I had left mine there or not. She didn't answer, but then asked me if I had heard something about some old friends of ours. I asked her again if the beer was hers, she then said yes and asked me the question about the friends again. I answered, and then asked her if the bottle of wine from before dinner was gone. She said no, it's in the fridge.

I wanted a glass, so I went and got the bottle out and noticed there was only one glass left in the bottle. I made a face and apparently looked at the bottle too long. W was watching me and she got mad, thinking that I was saying she had drank too much. W was still on the phone, and she went back outside, obviously pissed off at me.

A bit later, I was getting ready for bed. W got off the phone and came into the bedroom, told me her version of what had happened and let me have it...basically "if you have a problem you need to tell me and not make faces and all that". I said I don't have a problem...I was just surprised that there was only 1 glass of wine left. I apologized for making her feel like I was judging her, we talked for a bit and then I thought we had ended on an ok note.

W went out to go watch TV, and I went to bed. Right before I went to sleep I sent W a text that simply said "sorry". I guess I sent it because it felt like she didn't accept my apology...apparently I was right. She texts back: "If you have a problem with me, tell me. The theatrics are obnoxious and they set our progress back more than you could ever know". Haven't talked to her yet today, as I had to get up at 5 AM to leave for work.

On the positive side, W did eventually come and sleep in our bed...and I guess she technically did acknowledge that we are (were) making progress. But man, what a stupid, pointless setback this is.