Another thing that was kind of heartbreaking last night was S4 was trying to pull H and me close together to do a family hug. H was uncomfortable and started smiling. That hurt. I didn't know what to do or say to S. I said to H "is it so hard to hug me?" and then he leans in sideways. I said "that's how you hug your mom", and then he tried a little harder. That interaction made me really sad. S is trying for his parents to like each other and he senses that the love is absent. S used to come between H and I whenever H hugged me because he felt a little jealous. Now, S is trying to get his parents together. A few days ago S noticed that I looked a little said and asked me "are you sad because daddy won't hug you?" That almost made me cry. It breaks my heart thinking what the sitch is doing to S and how he will have to suffer for the rest of his life.
BklynMom - you're right, we need to keep fighting, especially for our children!
