ANS-I will have to think about what was truly said as that was July of 2011 when the bomb hit. She has since apologized for a lot of what was said and even said she would take back most of it if she could in a text so I don't know what was real or not. This is were I have work to do.
That's Snowman. I have just one thought. I wouldn't throw out the stuff she retracted. It may not be as important as the things she still considers to be true, but maybe those "unreal" complaints have something you can learn from anyway. Maybe you can still learn something about what drives her negative perceptions of you, y'know?