I think the "competitive" self kicks into high gear because as children, they weren't recognized for their accomplishments. Maybe a brother, sister or someone else in their peer group got all of the attention for something similiar to what the mlcer did. The mlcer is looking for admiration and acknowledgement all of the time during the crisis and it's very sad. If you have children, you might even see your mlcer in competition w/them. Sad, isn't it?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
