hope you love her, cause you're stuck with her now

[MichelleLT]

And his response this evening:
I see... Now i totally understand your fear of confrontation.
I figured it was due to the bloody noses u got from your sister(kinda joking kinda not) or maybe your father's not so subtle intimidation... (thinking of kelsey's visit)
I was proud of you when you stood up to your dad at the Navy Graduation and told him he was acting childish.
That, I think, was a big step for you...

As for your issues of confrontation perhaps seeking help with that will make things a bit easier in the future
I used to totally be the same way. Fear ... total fear would lock me down... I could never argue.
I have had to learn to calm myself and think then speak.

About for the waiting for you to come around was regarding the times where we had discussions that i received no response.
I was hoping you would bring it up later so we could hash it out on your terms ... i thought perhaps that would help you.
I was hoping you would sense my distancing and pulling away and at least ask about that.
Gradually My walls became stronger for my protection.

It is so unfortunate that such a drastic measure had to be taken to get a reaction from you.

I hope you understand my reasons for calling it quits.
If not, I have no problem explaining myself.

Perhaps in time you and I can rebuild our friendship. I would like that a lot.


Is it just me, or does that infuriate anyone else? There's something so irritating about putting the time and effort into trying to have this conversation only to have him shut it down. So much of his response the last couple months has been so passive aggressive. We're still back to the same things. No you didn't have to do something so drastic to get a reaction from me, you could have talked to me, asked to do counseling, tried a different actions, communication medium, etc etc etc ad nauseum. And no I don't understand your reasons for bailing. Ugh.