Thanks J.S and Pur(rrrrr.. I always think of kittys :))

I haven't done a storage locker but I have started packing away things that are not necessary for my comfort for the next few months and they are all in storage in our spare room. So all the little touches of home for me are missing now. Some not so little. And I've moved all the stuff from 'our' bedroom to the spare room where I will be sleeping.

And I hear you about just not being here. I have given some serious thought to that.


But in some ways... I kind of want to grab that moment of return and use it *hopefully* to my advantage. I can't predict what type of mood he will be in, or how he will act, but 'they' say that the best predictors of a person's future behaviour is their past behaviours and in the past, we have always spent a nice night with a couple of drinks, listening to music and catching up (of course in the past we have been intimate too, but I won't be adding that complication to the mix!) Usually when he comes home from long periods of being away he is in a really receptive, talkative mood and it's always a good discussion. Even once when we fought a LOT while he was away over the initial 'possible depection' I listed in my very first post. I would hate to pass that up *should* it be like that. It is just that he always seems very 'vunerable' after separations, and yes, while our situation is different (we are broken up) this time, I am still hoping that if he comes in to a non-hostile enviroment, he will let his guard down and we can see how things go.

He is the type of guy that while yes, he would not like coming home to no happy reception, he would get over that by going and getting laid either with a stranger, or maybe with OW. I can't control what he does, this I know, but I want to at least make sure that I to strike when the iron is hot, should it be hot... lol (I'm tired, sorry.. not making sense)
(he is not an awful personn btw!! Just reading that last part back sounds pretty bad, but I know him, he won't stay home and watch the clock for sure!)

BUT... Then again...

I guess since I don't know which end will be up with him, what I have is a back up plan.
If he is grumpy pants and I feel like things might get ugly, I will leave and go to a friends place. If that happens, I will just say "It seems like you might need to have a little time to yourself to settle in so I'm meeting friends for drinks, glad you're home in one piece and have a great night!" and jet, looking fabulous.

A PERFECT sitch would be to come home *just after* he arrives, so he could get a sense of what you guys suggested, and then be more grateful of my presence.


This is of course *IF* he even gives a cr@p! He may not care and leave me here and go out, or h6ll, tell me to leave! lol K k, k... I'm going to stop now... see those wheels are turning again! :S