Husband Left...Part 4

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I know you are probably already beating yourself up so I wont beat you up too. But I will say that throwing yourself sexually at a WAH is like putting a nail in the coffin. You HAVE to go dark now, if only to gain some self control back. Have you read DB? If so, read it again. Then again. You will not win him back by seducing him (in this situation thats not possible, he is not pursuing you), by being at his beck and call, listening to him, or even out hoping he will return out of obligation to his D or commitment to vows..... Never happens. He will ONLY return if he sees an attractive, confident, self assured person who does not need him but who is her own person, has boundaries and who demands respect.

You can do this. Pick yourself up and brush yourself off. In your sitch it might serve you well to get a little angry so you can fight for you and your D and a new life. Go dark, do not talk to him unless you have to and then only by short texts and not responding immediately. If he wants you back, make him earn it. currently, he doesnt deserve you. You deserve better.

Hugs, sweetie. I made that mistake when DBing to try to save my 1st marriage and I know it hurts.