I just browsed through your thread. Didn’t read it in detail. Just browsed.
You got into a few pissing contests with some folks, eh?
The way people express themselves...
Ya know? It all comes down to perceptions.
There’s a lesson here. Don’t get caught up on the words. Regardless of what you said to your W, or what your W said to you... More words.
Can you read between the lines?
Like MrBond just posted, nobody’s a mind reader. I’m not suggesting that you try to read your W’s mind. But regardless of whether your W’s complaints are justified, ask yourself where those perceptions came from.
Originally Posted By: Snowman
When the bomb was dropped it was like word vomit of everything negative in our marriage she could think of and just made it up. I seriously can't recall 2 big things right now because there was not big thing to her it was just everything. She couldn't even explain it to me and still can't to this day.
Did you take notes? She has given you a gold mine of 180’s. Don’t expect her to explain it, but take a look at the little things. Look at them with an eye to figuring out what you may have done that could be construed in any unlikely fashion to promote or support her negative perception. Doesn’t matter if the actual complaint is utter krap. It’s all perception.
And now... Do the opposite! That’s a 180. No judgment. She’s not right or wrong. You’re not right or wrong.
