Light at the end of the tunnel......

[NYCPeter]

It does sound like your W has done a great job of setting up services for your D

She has done a fantastic job - one of my regrets is that I was not more involved with the process, she would talk about it and I would leave the details to her. I recognize I could and should have been a lot more involved.

however, it could be a conflict of interest as well.

My MIL is unlikely to want to be involved in my side of parenting - since the bomb we barely talk and she is fully supportive of W as most parents would be.

So get on finding a provider for those other 8 hours, that is important.

Agree - but as you know finding someone with the right hours available and someone we can trust and reliable is very difficult. We've interviewed numerous candidates.

Remember that YOU and your W are your D's biggest advocates. Don't ever be afraid to fight for her.

We always have - and will continue to do so.

I am glad that you seem to want the responsibility of both of your children and aren't letting her CP stop you from being a parent.

That will never happen - the biggest challenge I will face as a single parent is to do family activities together. There are a limited number of activities that D10 can participate in that can be shared without D7 getting "bored" (that's D7's new favorite word). W has a lot of family locally so they can "split" time, I have no family local so when I have the girls I will need either need to find activities we can all do together or work with the provider a the same time.

I'm hoping (though this may be unlikely) - to find someone who can do 7-9am until the girls are off to school and then the odd evening until I get home. This would work well if I could get 50/50 with a Thurs to Mon schedule.