Enough with the lies - what is going on???

[Accuray]

Good for you Enough Already,

It sounds like you're doing excellent GAL activities and getting yourself in a DB frame of mind!

There hasn't been a whole lot of complaints from either of us through the course of our relationship...and maybe that in and of itself is a problem - not communicating these complaints.

We had the same issue, we never argued and were both conflict avoiders. I would withdraw and quickly forget whatever the conflict was, like an easily-distracted 2 year old. My W would put it in the back seat and hold onto it forever until eventually she would explode. I read an article recently that said that couples that argue and fight often have stronger marriages -- you have to care enough to argue, and the "make up" period after an argument does a lot to strengthen your bonds. It also helps to establish you as 2 separate people, rather than a codependent pair.

While I may have given you harsh advice, please know that I know how you feel, it's a terrible place to be -- but you're not there alone, it happens every day, and it's not your fault!

Accuray