"in my first marriage, my former W would complain that i did not care about her. that really frustrated me since i knew i did. yet - as i later learned - i was showing care in dollars whereas where she grew up care was shown in euros"
onyourside that^^^^^ is it. My W cared for me with buying things, cooking or doing things. She is very much into money and gift giving. Don't get me wrong I liked those things also but she was not very emotional or physical which I am.
Intially I was sleeping in our great room's couch but could not sleep so one night I went into or bed where she was sleeping and she freaked out. So I stayed in our marital bed and she relocated to the living room and sleeps on the couch. We do have a spare room with a bed and TV but she has opted for the couch?
Regarding my D she failed all of those classes before any of this happened. But I wonder now if we were having problems and my D was being affected. I don't remember arguing much during the last couple of years until my out burst this summer. I am gone most of the day and when I am home I just watch TV down stairs and say very little. My W is usually in the office working or out at the barn for about 3-4 hours everyday except Wednesdays.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
