But now as I type this I find myself second-guessing my actions. I can also see how my fixer personality is drawn to engaging with her. How I want to make it better for her. This gets very confusing. I am trying to do this from an unconditional love for her as well as being child-centric.
I wouldn't second guess that too much, if at all....
I really like that you validated her in the way that you did. You were cognizant enough to know the difference now, and you saw her mood change when she felt that you were listening to her. And you cut it off before it turned sour.
How is different from the past ?
This is classic DBing. You pull away and focus on yourself, and her interest in you picks up. She starts coming toward you, because you ARE different, and she wants to know why.
That is when your actions tell her how you are different.
