First of all your H and this OW are jerks!! They are pathetic. I am going to call your H John Edwards from now on.

Anyway, they are going to do anything to justify there position. ANything you say will be used as proof that you are crazy and hard to deal with.

Sounds like you backslide only slightly. You should be very proud of yourself. Keeping your cool under these circumstances is nearly impossible.

I do not think you should call or text the OW. Maybe start a letter to her and at some point in the future you could send. But I think however you do end up communicating with OW, you should not open up to her in an honest way. You should kill her with kindness.

You have an opportunity now that its out in the open to continue to act chill.

I know I have asked you before but a family member cant come stay with you for a few days or you and kids go visit someone?? I feel like you are putting too much pressure on yourself to be there for your kids, this is a traumatic event and you need someone to help take care of you.


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M 39
H 35
D5,D4
M 4
T 9
ILYBNILWY 5/18/11
Left 7/11/11
Divorced 12/1/13