I need advice for dealing with a WAW

[SamuelH]

So the 20th of January is rapidly approaching. Back in December I said that I would resume my attempts at contacting my W then. Is this still a good idea? What would be the best way to go about doing this? My pastor thinks I should write her a second letter stating very simply:

"Dear W, I love you. As your husband I feel you me an explanation of what is going on and what you are thinking."

I'm guessing that the words 'Dear' and 'I love you' would still be frowned upon here.

I'm thinking maybe I should try calling her parents, but they didn't really seem to have any information the last time I talked to them and they indicated that my W was even distancing herself from them. I'm guessing if I was able to contact my parent-in-laws all they would say is "no change" or "she won't talk to us about you"

I forgot to mention that last Sunday I received a message from her friend's mother. The message basically stated:

"Happy New Year Sam, Everyone down here is fine, hope you are too."

I'm thinking maybe I will this person and ask her if she has seen or heard from my W and if she has any idea as to what my W's plan is... Perhaps I could even ask her if she can maybe talk my W into opening up a line of communication with me....