Hey 25yearsmic. Thank you I will do that, you are right about eye contact, I must be more aware. We can do quality time and I think more so the words of affirmation. When I compliment her at the moment her response is OMG are you alright?
Read the first chapter online, books here, I can pick it up tomorrow. Went to a new counselor today, W was uncomfortable with previous for valid reasons. New counselors pent most of the time understanding ourselves, our relationship to date and wasn't till the very end that the EA/PA came up. She was pretty straight that the EA/PA could not be happening during this process and W agreed. Session ended. We're back in two weeks.
W had no contact with OM coworker for 3 days now since telling him but she's back at work next week. We discussed the session for a while after and I expressed my concerns about the work environment, how he'd pursue her, and we had a pretty open conversation about how to handle it. I'm trying not to demand/dictate so really wanted her to understand the validity of the concern. She was reading up on relationship endings on the net tonight, said she'll avoid contact, if he contacts her tell him straight it's over and to leave her alone and have someone else deal with him from a business perspective.
It was a pretty frank discussion, I believe her intent, it will be a week since she's seen him when she returns, she's going through a withdrawal at the moment. So we'll see how it goes next week. I want to make sure I'm leaving no holes for this guy possibly fill until we get to our next session. I'm still very anxious about it.
