CTflor, I found out that physically hurling things, even if not directed at my H, made him feel unsafe in his own home. So yes, it is shocking. I used to do that too, and did not think of it afterwards, but it became a big factor in his MLC mind as part of his justification why he had an EA.
I think Retrouvaille can really help you. It is all about feelings, in the first place. It will help you face those feelings and not act on them in a negative way.
I saw your post in my thread. So are you going to the April sessions? Did you mean the SF bay area?
Thanks Angel. I did not even see it this way... that he may feel unsafe around me. I don't want him to feel this way.
