I agree with Labug. Either say nothing or say it in private. Keep the kids out of it OR ask them in private and later on mention it to h (I assume you don't want him to know you snooped?) But Asking the kids does not guarantee truth-

Keep in mind that some WASs DO tell their kids not to mention OPs "b/c it'll just upset mommy and you don't want her to be sad, do you?"

Yes I have seen that. And at the time they do it, the WAS convinces himself he's protecting the LBSer...


The point of ALL this is that you want to show him you CAN be trusted with truth b/c you won't go batchit on him, AND that you are capable of change. So do this

OR

show change another way (but I'd expect more of the lying,) sorry.

Finally, forget out ow...

You cannot attract his attention to you, by criticizing her. That gets the focus on HER again...

your plan is to show that marriage to you can be better and different.

Reveal that through your behavior.



M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change